When You Want to Be Quiet and Your Wife Wont Leave You Alone Funny

If a woman you like dumped you, you probably feel tempted to chase after her. You're convinced that you must say or do something to show her you're serious about her and capable of changing for her and the relationship. Before you act on impulse, though, you need to know that your ex doesn't want you to chase her.

She may have wanted you to chase (or rather care about her) before the breakup, but now that she ended the relationship, she doesn't want you to do that anymore. She's completely unreceptive to your efforts, which is why she won't think fondly of you if you refuse to leave her alone.

If anything, she'll get angry with you and feel even less attracted to you. She'll lose her remaining respect and pity you instead of love you.

So don't think that you're responsible for convincing her to give you another chance. The only person responsible for redeveloping feelings is the person who left. That makes your ex the person who has to correct her thinking patterns, improve her perceptions of you, and process the unhealthy feelings she'd created for you.

And the only way your ex can fix these internal issues is if you leave her alone. I wish there was some way you could help her process the separation and speed up the process, but, unfortunately, you lost the ability to influence her a while ago.

You lost it way before she decided to dump you. Probably a week or two before the breakup because that's when she realized she doesn't want to be with you. I know this is a hard pill to swallow because you still have feelings for your ex and wish that she would come to her senses and come back to you.

But since the breakup happened, you mustn't stay focused on the past and beat yourself up for your mistakes. What's done is done. You can't change the past.

Now, you have different things to worry about. Things that involve preserving your worth, increasing your self-esteem and happiness, boosting your independence, and finding your purpose again. You can do all these things simply by following the no contact rule and avoiding post-breakup mistakes.

You must remember that your ability to control yourself and your willingness to give your ex space will determine how your ex thinks and feels about you after the breakup. Not how she felt for you prior to the breakup, but how she feels for you after.

In other words, you can't control her perceptions of you prior to the breakup, but you can nonetheless make sure that you don't make things worse by begging and pleading and doing things that make you look desperate for attention.

Desperation doesn't encourage love to redevelop. It makes your ex see that you're obsessed with her and that you don't have what it takes to make yourself happy, let alone her.

So leave your ex alone after the breakup. Don't call her, don't text her. Don't like her pictures on social media and don't bother her friends. Act as if you're okay with the breakup and focus completely on yourself.

This will give your ex what she wants and make your ex happy. And when she's happy, she'll probably work through her post-breakup suffocation (the overwhelming need for space), think about you every now and then, and eventually reach out.

She may not want to get back together, but at least she'll get through the initial stages of a breakup for the dumper. That's when she'll need one final push – something or someone that will disappoint her and make her compare her unhappy present to a happier past.

If you're lucky and she holds you in high regard, she might remember you, apologize for breaking up with you, and ask to get back with you. This really depends on how you portray yourself and how she perceives you.

The title of this post is, "If she dumped you, leave her alone." We'll talk about why distancing yourself from an ex-girlfriend or ex-wife who dumped you is necessary and what the dumper goes through when you give her what she needs.

If she dumped you, leave her alone

If she dumped you, leave her alone is a very common saying on the internet. Dumpees know that they have very little control over their ex-partner's decision, so the only thing they can do is to respect themselves and leave their ex alone. By doing so, they don't hurt their ex and make her come back out of desperation. At least not right away.

By leaving their dumper ex alone, dumpees give their ex the space and privacy she's asked for.

And that's more than enough because when the dumper enjoys her independence, she also appreciates her ex-partner for giving her room to breathe and thinks slightly better of him.

I'm not saying that all the problems disappear the moment the dumper gets some time to herself because that's not what no contact does. I'm not saying that she starts to develop feelings right away either.

All space after the breakup does is that it allows the dumper to:

• process her negative pre-breakup emotions
• cool off and think rationally
• enjoy her life the way she wanted to enjoy it
• run into problems

The dumper needs time to do all these above things. She can't just process her emotions right away and run into some kind of painful situation that she can't handle. Right after the breakup, she feels elated and is nearly incapable of getting hurt and thinking about the past.

Most dumpers just don't become nostalgic right away. Some do, but those who do are usually depressed and overwhelmed with guilt and sorrow. "Normal" dumpers tend to look for distractions and enjoy their own company after the breakup.

This is because they've been unhappy for so long that the breakup makes them feel relieved. And because they feel relieved, they also feel an overwhelming desire to do something with their excess energy. Oftentimes, they figure that the best thing to do with their energy is to use it on their friends, hobbies, work, and meeting new people.

Sometimes they also start doing the things they previously disliked.

And that's because dumpers often feel like starting over. They feel like leaving their old lives behind, so they do things they previously disapproved of or complained about.

If your ex-girlfriend is acting out of character, you need to know that she's extremely relieved. Whether the breakup was your fault or not, she felt unhappy for some time prior to the breakup and now thinks that she can finally be happy. Whatever you do, don't blame yourself for your ex's elation. Most of her elation is self-created by her inability to process the negativity.

It's created by her unhealthy thoughts and feelings that she knowingly or unknowingly associated with you. To not get hurt from seeing your ex happy after the breakup, convince yourself that she's happy because she didn't know how to handle her negative emotions.

Instead of thinking thoughts that repair the relationship, she kept looking for reasons why the relationship wasn't good for her. And she did it for so long that she lost feelings for you and left with a victim mentality.

Having said that, here are 10 reasons why you must leave her alone if she left you.

If she dumped you, leave her alone. Give her time to reflect on her choices (as well as mentality) and she may or may not realize that the problem is with her. Some women realize that they gave up too quickly when they encounter similar stressors from the past and have no one to associate them with.

Other women realize it's their fault when they date someone new and that person makes them feel even worse than you.

So while you wait for something or someone to prove your worth to your ex, make sure to preserve your worth. Do things that make you happy because that will make your ex envy your happiness when she gets hurt.

Why do you need to leave her alone if she dumped you?

The breakup sucks because it's completely out of your control. I get that. Other than leaving your ex alone and improving your shortcomings, there isn't much you can do to alter her thoughts and feelings for you. You can't just say something or do something and manipulate her into thinking you're the right guy or her.

She needs to see with her own eyes that she'd made a mistake and that she must fix this mistake before it's too late (before you lose feelings for her and find someone new).

Some people think they can reason with their ex because their breakup was peaceful, but what they don't realize is that their ex has lost feelings for them. They don't understand that their ex's mentality wasn't good enough for the relationship and that they can't do anything to change it.

They can try to change it, but that almost always has the opposite of the desired effect. It makes their ex feel disrespected and causes her to defend herself. And when she defends herself, she feels even more convinced that the breakup needed to happen and that she must get some space from the dumpee.

As I said earlier, the only person who has the power to change her stubborn mentality is the dumper herself. She's the one who deliberately or indeliberately changed it—and that's why she must be the one to fix it as well.

Neither you nor your friends or her friends can change it for her. They can tell her she's making a mistake, but to her, it's not just a mistake. She feels unhappy, angry, smothered, tired, victimized, or strongly convinced that the issue is with you, so she thinks she's made the right decision.

There are only two ways she can change the way she feels about you. And that's by wanting to change the way she feels about you or by being forced to change the way she feels about you. The former requires maturity, self-awareness, and the ability to deal with unhealthy emotions while the latter requires a bad event or a series of bad events.

How your ex realizes your worth doesn't matter. All that matters is that she finds a reason to reflect. A reason that makes you into a person of high value in her eyes.

Leave your ex alone forever!

If your ex dumped you, leave her alone forever. Not for a week, not for a month, and not for a year. It's forever because if your ex left you for any reason at all, she isn't only bothered by that one reason. That's the least of her worries.

Your ex's problem or rather, problems are the emotions she associated with you because of that reason. This is something dumpees have a difficult time comprehending. They don't understand that dumpers aren't the most logical creatures.

I like to think of them as very emotional people as the issues they have with their ex-partner are of emotional nature. Deep inside, they hold certain negative associations for their ex-partner and aren't willing nor capable of disassociating those emotions and getting back with their ex even if their ex fixes the issues that broke them up.

Dumpers prefer to hold their ex responsible and see their ex for the person he or she was in the past. Doing so keeps their thoughts, feelings, and associations locked and gives them control over the situation.

So if your ex dumped you and you're wondering if you should leave her alone, know that not leaving her alone will cause more problems than it will solve. Not only will it make it hard for your ex to respect you, but it will also keep your ex high up on a pedestal which will restrict you from enjoying your life to the fullest.

The only thing you can do about an ex who dumped you is to leave her alone. Start no contact (if you haven't already) and find things to work on. Invest in your social life, improve physical and emotional health, do the things you enjoy, and find your passion and purpose.

Distractions like these will make you feel better and tell your ex that you aren't waiting for her to come back to you.

Your ex needs to know that you aren't waiting for her. She doesn't want to hear things like, "Contact me if you change your mind." Such comments won't tell your ex that she has to hurry up. On the contrary, they will kill all sense of urgency as they'll convey to your ex that you'll be waiting for her for a very long time.

So give your ex some space. The chances of her missing you will be higher if you refuse to chase her and leave her alone.

Will she come back if I leave her alone?

Nobody can tell you if your ex will come back if you leave her alone. But now you know that she likely won't come back if you don't leave her alone. Pestering her and trying to be her friend will most likely suffocate her and annoy her. It won't encourage her to miss you and come back.

Whether your ex comes back really depends on 1)her ability to process her negative emotions and 2)the negative experiences she encounters after the breakup. If she gets together with another guy, for example, she'll be infatuated with him for a few months—which will delay the time it takes her to encounter difficulties.

But a few months later, they'll eventually get to know each other and learn if they're compatible. If they are compatible, your ex will stay with him for the time being. But if they aren't a great match and argue a lot, she might compare him to you and run back to you for love and reassurance.

This is just one possible outcome. Your ex could also get hurt by some kind of stressor. A stressor like her job, friends, health, or something that matters to her. When she gets hurt, she could notice that she doesn't have a proper support system and think about the times when she had it. That's when she could send you breadcrumbs and/or ask to get back together.

Until that happens, you need to leave her alone. You need to mind your own business no matter what she does and how long it's been since the breakup. Getting over the breakup needs to be your first priority. Everything else comes second.

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